Jealousy is a vice that has destroyed many relationships. Jealousy often breeds insecurity in individuals who are in a relationship, which may eventually lead to misunderstandings, fights, and breakups. This may not be necessary if handled with maturity from both parties involved. A jealous girlfriend will always feel bad, not only when she sees you with another person, but even when you acquire something without their express opinions and involvement. Jealousy is an inert characteristic that one develops from related childhood experiences, or from challenges one experienced from previous relationships. The relationship may have failed due to interferences from other people. You need to consider the following to successfully deal with a jealous girlfriend:
Time Spent Together
A jealous girlfriend will need you to spend time together, entirely committed to her and her needs. You need to understand her present desires when you are with her and be able to commit to giving her your full undivided attention and affection—of course putting into consideration your own privacy to handle your issues.
Friends and Acquaintances
Your friends and acquaintances will almost always be the cause of misunderstandings between you and your girlfriend. You should be able to introduce your girlfriend to most of your friends, with whom you frequently meet. Explain the nature of your relationship with them to alleviate your girlfriend’s fears. Even though it is not possible to introduce her to all your friends, you should be able to explain those relationships to her.
Once you’ve established that your girlfriend is the jealous type, then set clear relationship boundaries from the beginning. You should be able to explain to her what you consider to be excessive in her behavior and attitude towards your other relationships. You can avoid many problems in the future by ensuring you and your girlfriend have an understanding of each other’s excesses and boundaries.
The key to stopping many problems brought about by jealousy is positive communication. It is common for jealous individuals to associate the absence of the other person with neglect and carelessness. However, constant communication, even via phone, will alleviate any fears. Your jealous girlfriend will feel loved and cared for when you keep the channels of communication open. This is well illustrated here at Happymatches.
Truth and Transparency
Hiding any information from your girlfriend will almost always lead to jealousy and bitterness. Once she finds out that you’ve been hiding these things from her, she will tend to act more jealous, coupled with having doubts and mistrust towards you. You need to be truthful to your girlfriend and share what you have with transparency.
As direct as it may sound, at times you must reprimand her for her actions of jealousy that may not be beneficial to your relationship. When you reprimand her for being jealous over what you consider as being silly and childish, you may be able to stop some of her unfair judgment on your decisions. If worse comes to worst, then a break up can help you avoid future pain.
Since jealousy is a character inborn in most people, it may be very difficult to stop it completely. However, it is worth trying for the sake of your relationship with your girlfriend.
by Ameh Ujah