A breakup is one of the most painful experiences one can ever go through, especially if you really cared and thought of a future with your ex. what’s more painful is the post break up process, where you find yourself missing them, fighting the urge to text or call them just to make sure they remain in your life, irrespective of how the relationship ended, and the fear of living life without them.
We don’t want you brooding over what was, or what could have been. So we took it upon ourselves to give you a list of dos and don’ts to help you get over your breakup and be the happiest you’ve ever been.
- Its okay not to remain friends with your ex.
Not wanting to remain friends with your ex immediately after a breakup doesn’t make you bitter, petty or whatever it is you think it might make you come across as. It is okay to not want them around, at least until you are in a more stable place emotionally. You deserve time to get used to the fact that you are no longer an item, and if at the end of the day you decide to remain friends, then be sure you can handle, seeing them being with other people.
- Don’t spend your time listening to sad music and eating junk food.
Well, we can’t deny that food and sad music is the fall back for many people after a breakup. You think it helps you deal with pain, but the truth is, it only makes you gain extra weight and makes you over analyze things.
- Channel your anger towards something positive.
Take all that anger and pain and channel it into something positive and rewarding. It could be joining the gym and letting out all that steam in some intensive workout, or taking a hike, a vacation, or a master class. Whatever it is just make sure you get the steam out in the healthiest way possible.
- Don’t stay alone for too long.
It is normal for people to want to be alone for some time after a breakup. Whatever your reason may be, just make sure you don’t shut out the rest of world for to long. Call up your best friends and allow them comfort the best way they know how to. Go out and interact with new people.
- Don’t be in a hurry to date again.
Take time out and learn to love yourself. Learn that you don’t need someone else to be happy, and most importantly, learn from your past relationship. Remember that you deserve the best and you won’t get that by settling for less, all in the name of companionship.
- Don’t blame yourself.
Nobody is perfect and we are all prone to make mistakes. What is important is how you behave and what you learn from those mistakes. If you did your partner dirty while you were together, accept your fault, apologize to them and wish them all the best. Remember that they also have a right to hurt.
- Avoid posting about it on social media.
Although a lot of people think helps get over their ex, the truth is that all this does is put your business out there in the hands of strangers, giving them the opportunity to feed off your pain and say hurtful things to you. Even if your ex is being petty and saying stuff on social media, ignore their rants and move on.
- Its okay to cry and feel sad
It is okay to break down and let all the emotions out. You feel hurt and you don’t have to feel weak about expressing your pain. The only time it becomes a problem is when you allow this hurt take over you.